I get a lot of incoming traffic from people searching for experiences with balanced translocations. They are looking for odds–something to provide them with at least a little bit of positivity or hope. I know because I looked for the first few months of my pregnancy with Paisley and again in the beginning of the pregnancy that we just lost. I know the odds, but to know real stories about real people who’ve had a healthy baby after a diagnosis of a balanced translocation is worth so much more than clinical statistics.
We’ve been waiting for the genetic results after the D&C for almost three weeks. I don’t know why I wanted to know if the chromosomes were like Ben’s. I think I wanted an answer, and I was pretty sure that was going to be it.
But it was apparently girl with normal chromosomes. Huh.
At first I was surprised. Not about the gender, because we really had a strong feeling it was a girl. Then I was kind of upset about getting the answer we’d been waiting for for a few weeks and having it turn out to be a non-answer. But then I realized…the miscarriage was just one of those things. As sad as we are, and as unfortunate as it is, it was normal. We didn’t experience this because of my balanced translocation. In that, there is comfort and relief, and that’ll have to be good enough.
I don’t know what this means for the future. I was better prepared for what would change if the results were different and abnormal. I’m afraid that if we do conceive a baby with an unbalanced translocation in the future and that pregnancy sticks, it will be horribly ironic. Whichever way it goes, you all will know. Especially my fellow translocation Googlers who need a shot of our own personal brand of comfort.
I haven’t updated on Paisley in a while. She is doing wonderfully! She’s 10 months old now (what!). Crawling, standing, furniture-cruising, getting into trouble, and being SO cute that she gets away with it every time.
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